Less Stress & More Joy: Keeping Kids Nourished (and Happy) During the Holidays

The holidays are a time for connection, tradition, and yes—food! But for many parents, the disruption of routine, the influx of sweets, and the stress of travel can make navigating nutrition feel overwhelming.

As we head into this festive season, let’s take a deep breath. We can support our children’s health and body image without becoming the "food police." Here is your guide to maintaining balance—and your sanity—during the holidays.

Back to Basics: The Balanced Plate

Before we worry about holiday cookies, let’s anchor ourselves in what a balanced meal actually looks like. Whether you are at home or a relative's house, aim for the "Power of Four" when possible:

1. Protein: (Meat, beans, eggs, yogurt)

2. Starch/Grain: (Bread, pasta, potatoes, rice)

3. Fat: (Butter, oil, avocado, cheese)

4. Fruit or Vegetable: (Whatever is available!)

When these four components are present, children stay fuller longer and have the steady energy they need to handle the excitement of the season.

Nutrition on the Move: Hotels, Airports, and Road Trips

Travel days are often "survival mode" days, and that is okay. However, a little prep goes a long way in preventing hangry meltdowns.

• The "Rule of Two": When grabbing snacks at a gas station or airport newsstand, try to pair two food groups. Instead of just crackers, look for crackers and cheese, or an apple and peanut butter.

• Hotel Hacks: If your room has a mini-fridge, stock it with yogurt tubes, milk, or cut veggies. This provides a safety net for breakfast or late-night hunger.

• Hydration: Travel is dehydrating. Keep water bottles accessible; sometimes what looks like hunger or irritability is actually thirst.

The Division of Responsibility at the Holiday Table

This is where the magic happens. Remember the Division of Responsibility (sDOR): You decide what, when, and where. Your child decides whether to eat and how much.

If You Are Plating (Younger Children)

If you are in a situation where you serve the food (like a sit-down family dinner), you have more control.

• Offer a balanced variety on the plate, including at least one "safe food" you know they usually eat (like a roll or fruit).

• Include the holiday treats or richer foods right alongside the rest of the meal. This neutralizes the treat and teaches children that all food have a place on the table and in our diet.

• Avoid asking your child to eat certain foods before others. Once you've served the plate, let them pick and choose what and when to eat each food even if that means the cookie comes first.

If They Are Plating (Older Children/Buffets)

When you are guest at a party or buffet, the environment changes.

• Release the Control: You cannot (and should not) control exactly what goes on their plate at a party. Hovering or commenting creates shame and resistance.

• Gentle Guidance: Instead of forbidding foods, offer positive suggestions. You might say, "That mac and cheese looks great! I’m going to grab some green beans to go with it for some crunch, do you want some too?"

• Autonomy: Allow them to explore. If they eat only rolls and pie for one meal, their body will likely tell them later that they need something else. This is a learning opportunity for them to listen to their internal cues.

The Big Picture: The 80/20 Approach

Here is the most important thing to remember: Nutrition is a marathon, not a sprint.

If you are following the Division of Responsibility and offering balanced meals 80% of the time at home during the year, a few days of "holiday eating" will not derail your child’s health. You do not need to micromanage every bite during vacation.

Your child’s relationship with food and their body is shaped by the consistent environment you provide at home, not by a week of holiday travel. Focus on the memories, keep the food language neutral, and enjoy the season!

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